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From The Body Language Project!
Christopher Philip
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Saturday, March 22, 2008
The wallflower
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QZutLZRgJM
How often do we catch either ourselves or other men acting like “wallflowers”? That is, generally acting anti-social and eyeing women. It has been shown that women have more acute peripheral vision then men and just because they aren’t looking directly at a man, doesn’t mean she doesn’t notice your greasy eyeballs all over her. In all likelihood, she will avoid making eye contact altogether as the net affect could be taken the wrong way. That is, she might think you’ll wrongly assume she is interested which will only invite additional problems for her. Using a gaze instead of a stare is much more effective positive body language. Gazing is very hard for men to accomplish and involves showing ‘appreciation’ for the person that is being viewed. Men normally cast their eyes toward women like they are objects. Married men can be the worse for this since they oogle women without any intension of ever approaching or talking with them. My short advice is to avoid checking women out in this way and allow them to show you interest by having them initiate the eye contact. There are more appropriate and positive ways to get female attention, such as being the life of the party, or being seen conversing with other people (being social) rather then being a loner and staring at women like they are a slab of meat.
If you want to learn more signals of sexual interest, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Does Barack Obama have Narcissistic Personality Disorder [NPD]?
Definition: NPD is rare in the general population (1-2%). A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique
4. Requires excessive admiration
5. Has a sense of entitlement
6. Is interpersonally exploitative
7. Lacks empathy
8. Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
9. Shows arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes
If you want to learn more signals of sexual interest, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Presidential Candidate Body Language: Barack Obama, John McCain and Hillary Clinton
What can we gather from tonality and gestures of the candidates in their campaigns? It is an interesting question to ponder. John McCain often uses his voice in a monotone fashion and lowers it, which is typical for alpha males. When women speak, they often change levels in pitch and volume and infuse more emotion into their speech then men. Therefore we should naturally expect Hillary Clinton to be more expressive for the simple reason that she is a woman. But how does Barack Obama compare? Well, he is someplace in between. He is much more expressive then John McCain but not as expressive as Hillary. Overall, women find men who are more expressive more appealing then men that are typically monotone, although respect and leadership qualities are often attributed to those with deeper voices. Hillary therefore is at a distinct disadvantage in this department. The research also shows that deeper voices are more believable, trustworthy, and authoritative. If Hillary were to attempt a deeper voice, it would carry across a room poorly, it might even appear angry or screechy.
Presidential Candidate Body Language: Barack Obama, John McCain and Hillary Clinton
Also note how Obama’s voice is rhythmic and hypnotic as a preacher would address his congregation. His voice emphasizes certain words and draws them out. His speech is not unlike Martin Luther King’s style in his speech “I Have a Dream”. He pauses frequently to allow the crowd to stir or cheer. Pausing is a way to control the audience, it is a powerful tool that can be used by regular people who which to appear dominant. The person pausing lacks any fear of being cut off by those surrounding him.
What can be said about the language of their bodies? It’s fairly obvious that McCain is much more rigid, but this is due to injuries sustained from war and age. He uses his arms far less then Obama and this can come off as less expressive. McCain’s arm movements are more deliberate and controlled though, which is typical of leader’s. Along with his voice, McCain demonstrates stability, control and safety whereas Obama conveys dynamic change. You might also note that Obama frequently looks down his nose at people. The head is tilted back and the eye appears to look through the nose (almost God-like). This is a very egotistical posture to hold and is elitist. It is what a wealthy person might do in the presence of a beggar.
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Eliot Spitizer Body Language
What's most significant about the body language during Eliot Spitzer’s news conference is that performed by Eliot's wife Silda Spitzer. She is avoiding eye contact with the media. She stands at attention with her feet together as a child would when they address an authority figure. She is addressing the media in this way to ask for permission or receive punishment. Her head is most often down and submissive occasionally making eye contact with Eliot. Her shoulders are turned in also reducing her body size showing submission. During the press conference she appears to show little expression almost as if she is not present emotionally. She is using displacement behaviour which is what people typically do as they travel through a large city full of strangers by not showing emotion. She is, in essence, removing herself from the situation and treats others in the room like objects. She most likely sees them that way as well for fear of being reprimanded. She appears to be unemotional and also un-supportive as her glances toward Eliot are barren. Her distance also shows that she is withdrawn from Eliot. She makes no attempt to come any closer then about six inches and performs no supportive touching. Her arms are behind her back showing restraint.
Eliot’s language is dominant and in control like an Alpha male. His moves are quickly and deliberately and shows that he has planned his speech and is executing as if it was a hired task. He is efficient and to the point. What is most significant is his last tight lipped smile which shows that he is repressing or hiding a thought or emotion. The downturned smile also shows unhappiness, anger, tension and depression when held for any permanent length of time. He flashes it only briefly to express an emotion. Remember, body language is triggered by emotional thoughts and actually serves to relieve our inner impulses. Our bodies release the tension created by our minds. Often we can’t continue normally without first satisfying this urge. Think of this gesture like an itch, obviously Eliot Spitzer needed to scratch this itch before he could continue with his life.
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
The Sexy Skirt Hike and It's Hidden Meaning
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3W7HK2yguM
The skirt hike is such a sexy display of sexual interest! What’s even more fascinating is that this signal happens subconsciously! Women who are available and interested will subconsciously play with their shirt buttons, perhaps unbuttoning and re-buttoning the upper button to reveal more skin serving to tease the men around her. She might also be flashing her wrists and if she is wearing a skirt will be playing with the bottom of her skirt and pulling it up slightly. It’s so potent that if she notices a man that she is not interested in, she will quickly force the skirt back down! We know if body language is directed at us by monitoring eye contact and the direction in which the toes are pointed. Women normally motion body language signals directly at a target so watching the rest of her body will tell us which person she is interested in.
If you want to learn more signals of sexual interest, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Escalate with hot tubs - Intimacy and temperature
Escalate with hot tubs
by Christopher Philip
The temperature of a normal, healthy human being is 37° C (98.4° F), but skin temperature is almost always lower than this and varies according to our emotional state. When we are anxious or afraid our temperature drops. If we are relaxed or sexually aroused, the temperature increases. During the intimate stages of a sexual encounter, a drop in body heat sends a message to our sexual partner who interprets it, usually correctly, as a lack of interest, dislike, unease or disapproval. People who are emotionally cold are also likely to be physically cold. When a man or woman is described as "hot stuff" or we speak of a "warm embrace" it may well be almost literally true.
As they become more passionate, the skin temperature of "hot people" really does get hot. This is in turn read correctly by their partner as an elevation in mood and intimacy. The hot tub therefore is a great way to artificially increase attraction via increased skin temperature. A warm sunny day can have the very same effect. Conversely, cold winter days can be a significant block in intimacy. In these circumstances, try cuddling up next to a warm wood fireplace.
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
by Christopher Philip
The temperature of a normal, healthy human being is 37° C (98.4° F), but skin temperature is almost always lower than this and varies according to our emotional state. When we are anxious or afraid our temperature drops. If we are relaxed or sexually aroused, the temperature increases. During the intimate stages of a sexual encounter, a drop in body heat sends a message to our sexual partner who interprets it, usually correctly, as a lack of interest, dislike, unease or disapproval. People who are emotionally cold are also likely to be physically cold. When a man or woman is described as "hot stuff" or we speak of a "warm embrace" it may well be almost literally true.
As they become more passionate, the skin temperature of "hot people" really does get hot. This is in turn read correctly by their partner as an elevation in mood and intimacy. The hot tub therefore is a great way to artificially increase attraction via increased skin temperature. A warm sunny day can have the very same effect. Conversely, cold winter days can be a significant block in intimacy. In these circumstances, try cuddling up next to a warm wood fireplace.
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Lists of things girls want and don't want!
TOP 13 FLIRTING FLOPS
by Christopher Philip
The following is a list of things that have been determined to be some of the worst you can do when attempting to pick someone up.
1. Approaching too closely
2. Bad breath
3. Bad hygiene
4. Bragging
5. Disproportionate laughter
6. Drunken antics
7. Excessive flattery
8. Smoking
9. Playing dumb
10. Poor eye contact
11. Shaking hands for too long
12. Staring too much
13. Talking on a cell phone.
THE 20 MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO IMPRESS A WOMAN
The following list represent the best ways to impress a woman as determined by 29 male and 27 female undergraduate students in a study by Buss in 1988. Keep in mind when reading this list that these are ways that are perceived to be the best. They are a matter of debate if you ask me. Of course, it would not hurt your chances if you did all or even some of these things.
1. Displaying a good sense of humour
2. Acting sympathetic to her troubles
3. Keeping self well groomed
4. Making an effort to spend a lot of time with one woman
5. Offering to help her
6. Showering on a daily basis
7. Keeping physically fit and creating a healthy appearance
8. Exercising
9. Wearing attractive outfits
10. Washing hair everyday
11. Wearing stylish clothes
12. Going on a diet to improve figure
13. Smiling at women a lot
14. Giving encouraging glances to women
15. Bringing a woman to a nice restaurant
16. Participating in extracurricular activities to meet women
17. Touching women
18. Making up jokes to make women laugh
19. Expressing strong opinions
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
by Christopher Philip
The following is a list of things that have been determined to be some of the worst you can do when attempting to pick someone up.
1. Approaching too closely
2. Bad breath
3. Bad hygiene
4. Bragging
5. Disproportionate laughter
6. Drunken antics
7. Excessive flattery
8. Smoking
9. Playing dumb
10. Poor eye contact
11. Shaking hands for too long
12. Staring too much
13. Talking on a cell phone.
THE 20 MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO IMPRESS A WOMAN
The following list represent the best ways to impress a woman as determined by 29 male and 27 female undergraduate students in a study by Buss in 1988. Keep in mind when reading this list that these are ways that are perceived to be the best. They are a matter of debate if you ask me. Of course, it would not hurt your chances if you did all or even some of these things.
1. Displaying a good sense of humour
2. Acting sympathetic to her troubles
3. Keeping self well groomed
4. Making an effort to spend a lot of time with one woman
5. Offering to help her
6. Showering on a daily basis
7. Keeping physically fit and creating a healthy appearance
8. Exercising
9. Wearing attractive outfits
10. Washing hair everyday
11. Wearing stylish clothes
12. Going on a diet to improve figure
13. Smiling at women a lot
14. Giving encouraging glances to women
15. Bringing a woman to a nice restaurant
16. Participating in extracurricular activities to meet women
17. Touching women
18. Making up jokes to make women laugh
19. Expressing strong opinions
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Monday, March 10, 2008
On Mirroring Body Language
Link: www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXdGRImmRZY
Mirroring is an instant way of building or monitoring the connection people have with one another. Yawning for example is a way that even complete strangers feel compelled to mimic. Mirroring-body language helps us gauge what level of agreement is present between people. In our historical past, mirroring each others gestures served to eliminate aggression between people. We use it today in much the same way. Two strangers won’t initially hold the same gestures or will hold closed body language and postures, but as agreements and opinions are expressed the body will show agreement and common ground. In dating, mirroring plays an even more potent role as couples can groove in almost complete synchrony which we call the matting dance. Mirroring therefore, says “Look at me, I’m the same as you, and we both agree”. Mirroring also shows how rooted cooperation is in our nature and how we can tolerate cooperation with just about anyone for a short period of time. Mirroring can go as deep as simultaneous blinking and nostril flares, eyebrow flashes and as we see in the video drinking in unison.
If you want to learn more signals of sexual interest, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Friday, March 7, 2008
The Peek-A-Boo Game
The following was excerpted from E-book – Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language found at www.BodyLanguageProject.com
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ln2tOnFYBIY
“This technique can be used by both men and women. Peek-a-boo is played in much the same way as kids play it, but in a slightly more sophisticated manner. You can do this across a room with another woman by using objects such as menus, drinking glasses, or with people walking by. This game, if done properly, will function to arouse women. It teases them. It is as if the eyes, when finally revealed, are made better by their absence. Two people who are attracted to one another often do this at a distance. You can imagine two people in a crowded bar, each having noticed the other. As they evaluate one another by scanning over them, sooner or later their eyes will meet. Then someone or something will break the visual contact between them. Curiosity will take hold and either the man or the women will shift to reestablish the sight path and their eyes will meet again. This form of flirting is what most people would call love at first sight. It is a connection that is created with no words at all and it sets the stage for courtship. Normally the players of the game will feel a sense of exhilaration especially when they are caught eye-to-eye. It can send a shockwave through the player’s bodies and cause the woman to blush, smile, and perhaps giggle. If you notice that a woman is playing the game with you, then she is probably inviting verbal contact. It can also be played with various body parts. For a woman it can be done by flashing skin through a slit. Arguable this is why slits are particularly seductive. It can also be done by un-buttoning and re-buttoning a shirt or collar. Ultimately, it is a form of teasing and can be very seductive.”
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ln2tOnFYBIY
“This technique can be used by both men and women. Peek-a-boo is played in much the same way as kids play it, but in a slightly more sophisticated manner. You can do this across a room with another woman by using objects such as menus, drinking glasses, or with people walking by. This game, if done properly, will function to arouse women. It teases them. It is as if the eyes, when finally revealed, are made better by their absence. Two people who are attracted to one another often do this at a distance. You can imagine two people in a crowded bar, each having noticed the other. As they evaluate one another by scanning over them, sooner or later their eyes will meet. Then someone or something will break the visual contact between them. Curiosity will take hold and either the man or the women will shift to reestablish the sight path and their eyes will meet again. This form of flirting is what most people would call love at first sight. It is a connection that is created with no words at all and it sets the stage for courtship. Normally the players of the game will feel a sense of exhilaration especially when they are caught eye-to-eye. It can send a shockwave through the player’s bodies and cause the woman to blush, smile, and perhaps giggle. If you notice that a woman is playing the game with you, then she is probably inviting verbal contact. It can also be played with various body parts. For a woman it can be done by flashing skin through a slit. Arguable this is why slits are particularly seductive. It can also be done by un-buttoning and re-buttoning a shirt or collar. Ultimately, it is a form of teasing and can be very seductive.”
If you want to learn more about body language, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.
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