The wallflower

Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8QZutLZRgJM

How often do we catch either ourselves or other men acting like “wallflowers”? That is, generally acting anti-social and eyeing women. It has been shown that women have more acute peripheral vision then men and just because they aren’t looking directly at a man, doesn’t mean she doesn’t notice your greasy eyeballs all over her. In all likelihood, she will avoid making eye contact altogether as the net affect could be taken the wrong way. That is, she might think you’ll wrongly assume she is interested which will only invite additional problems for her. Using a gaze instead of a stare is much more effective positive body language. Gazing is very hard for men to accomplish and involves showing ‘appreciation’ for the person that is being viewed. Men normally cast their eyes toward women like they are objects. Married men can be the worse for this since they oogle women without any intension of ever approaching or talking with them. My short advice is to avoid checking women out in this way and allow them to show you interest by having them initiate the eye contact. There are more appropriate and positive ways to get female attention, such as being the life of the party, or being seen conversing with other people (being social) rather then being a loner and staring at women like they are a slab of meat.

If you want to learn more signals of sexual interest, be sure to check out: www.BodyLanguageProject.com and the E-book - The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language.